that's the thing, Fuzz. I can think of two borderlines who I HAVE taken the time and made the effort to understand, and afterward, I discovered that I really didn't like them.

But then again, I've had that experience with non-borderlines, too.

Just because someone is borderline (or not), doesn't mean that they're guaranteed to be likable even if someone understands them. That puts all the responsibility on the other person, which is not fair.