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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I can identify with your behavior because I have done it too. I don't consider myself a stalker though I know some people on this forum considered me one when I started a thread about driving by my T's house. I did it when she moved to a different house too. I didn't want to cause her any harm. I just wanted to see where she lived. I felt guilty and told her. She understood but didn't like it. I never did it again.
Years before with my first T, after I terminated with her, I realized I could see her office at night from my doctor's office nearby. I used to go there on purpose. I realize that's a very stalkerish activity. I wrote her a letter and confessed, and she sent me a certified letter firmly suggesting I see aT right away. I did.
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Early on I mentioned something about my 'stalkerish' impulses to T. He didn't really respond so I asked whether it didn't scare him? His reply was "I don't scare easy".
At one time, when I was very anxious I drove past his house. When I mentioned it during our next session he asked whether it helped at all!
I really don't understand why other Ts discussed here seem to react in a rather hysterical fashion. I do understand that these behaviours have something in common with the behaviour of destructive and malicious stalkers, but inferring that there is a serious threatening pathology here is just bizarre to me.
Most of us already perceive ourselves as flawed, bad, ill, undesirable, threatening and a burden, so I just don't see the need to add to all of this when its fairly clear we are NOT a dangerous subset!