Could we maybe view it as we all have different preferences and beliefs regarding ways that people will act? Some therapists will match up great with some clients, some won't, and the key thing is to find a relationship where the therapist and client get each other. Some people will want a therapist who isn't anxious, some people won't mind an anxious therapist but would mind something else. Our expectations are all really different.

I don think anyone is saying therapists aren't allowed to be human. It's just usually better for clients if the therapist's own stuff isn't leaking into the room.