I've had conversations with t's about dual relationships, knowing too much about a t, and my own boundaries around contact. We discussed the prompting events for the conversations. If there is ever a point where the boundaries need to be revisited, we talk about it again. Current t and I need to revisit the out-of-session contact thing. I have a history of not reaching out until it was WAY past the emergency crisis point (sometimes never voluntarily reaching out for support at all). It allowed for a lot of falling apart. This time, she wants me to contact her about anything, even if I don't consider it a valid reason to bother her. I'm having trouble figuring out what is too trivial, vs what's appropriate. She hasn't taken issue with anything I text her about, but I don't always get a response, sometimes even when I really need one (generally, if I'm texting her, I need some sort of response because it's already taken a whole lot of agonizing over the decision to text in the first place). I was originally really resistant to bothering her outside of session, but she was hopeful it would avoid life-threatening crisis, so I agreed to try it... only now we are bumping into the things I was afraid of: that I would be bothering her with things I should know how to handle by now... so, anyway, considering revisiting that boundary.

Other boundaries I have around therapy involve trauma reactions to things, and not engaging in any treatment option that's more triggering than helpful (you'd be surprised how many professionals can argue the virtues of something even when there's evidence of individual difficulties with it. Dbt has been life-threatening for me 6 of the 7 times I attempted it. There's nothing they could say or do to have me try it again, yet even professionals who worked with me at the times I tanked because of dbt still insist it's an option to try again)...