Im sorry you've lived through such a toxic environment for so long.

I admire your bravery in deciding divorce is the logical next step.

I would say get an attorney asap. This sounds like it will be a messy divorce.

Get access to that video and use it to get a protective order against her and for your child. That is clearly a toxic situation for a child to be in. An attorney will help you with this.
Do not leave your home, or you will risk losing more in the distribution of assets.
But talk to a lawyer first.

My husband went through something VERY similar with his ex. They have 50/50 now. But it started with her getting arrested and a protective order until she went through anger management. He gave her the house and everything in it in exchange for no alimony.

It was 3 years of courts and lawyers.
But stay strong and keep your childs needs at number 1.

Good luck!

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