And I'm relieved!!!! If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, our marriage is insane. The pattern is every three weeks she over-the-top blows up at me or the kids, spends two days spewing venom, then it's all back to love and laughter. And se absolutely rock-sold refuses anything that has the whiff of therapy about it. At last there now is a way out of the chaos! Of course there's a heck of a lot of fear about being able to be a good dad to two teenagers (yikes!) and the money part (ouch!). But overall I'm just relieved.