I am 48 and just remembering and working through having been sexually abused as a small child. I think I am one of the lucky ones in that I have a husband and four children. I nearly lost my husband during these last two years of therapy, all the past came roaring back into my conscious mind and basically shut me down sexually. Now that I am healing and through the worst of it, my sex drive seems hmmm overwhelming. I guess it is a balancing thing. I think I had to do a lot of the healing before I was ready to be with my husband. If you do the work, I believe there will come a time for you to have what you desire.