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Originally Posted by BudFox
In my opinion the word "stalker" has no place in this discussion, other than the OP using it. If you have even rudimentary understanding of attachment theory, it's easy to see what's going on. Unless there is some indication of malice, "stalker" is an inappropriate and pathologizing label to throw around.
As for therapists having a dangerous job… if they don't want to deal with this sort of behavior from clients, then they should not be engineering a relationship which by its very nature brings it out. I think it's ridiculous to lament the poor therapists in these scenarios, when clearly it is the clients who are suffering.
I'm not terribly alarmed by a one-off in a public place. But you think it's acceptable for a client to cruise by a T's house too right? that is not JUST THE CLIENT'S HOME in most cases. it is their family, their roomate potentially. Stalking behavior in these situations is violating them too.
I agree that a client should bring the issue up if they wish to continue, but how many therapists are going to be able to handle it without hitting the panic button? Puts the client in a bind.
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You chose the profession, suck it up if you're stalked??? Wow.
There is a realm beyond black and white that allows for the understanding that the client is suffering and perhaps needs adjustment in treatment while still realizing that a therapist has a right to their privacy and personal life and does not deserve to be stalked. I'm not talking about dangerous therapists who deliberately manipulate clients beyond the brink, but your run of the mill therapist. that you cannot see that these truths can both exist at the same time is unfortunate. Stalking can be scary for not just the individual but the individual's family, if they get wrapped up in it. So the therapist's spouse and kids are just asking for it. They chose to have a therapist family member right?
A one-off catching a glimpse of the T in public is one thing. but you seem to think it's acceptable to cruise by a T's house too. Really? No. That is not just the T's home oftentimes. It is their spouse, their kids, their roomates home too and THEY deserve privacy even if you think the therapist needs to check that at the door the day they stepped into this profession.