Hi!
I am new here and I have a question. I am 58 and my husband is 66. We have been together since 1989. I have come to the conclusion that he is a N. I have so many questions that I dont even know where to start and really am having a tough time at the moment to even think. I am so emotionally and physically drained and under so much stress and I know I need to do something. I have not worked since 1999 and have very little money of my own which I am sure that was his plan all along. I know I need to get out. My biggest question now is: Should I do this without telling him that I am leaving? Should I file for a legal separation? Any advice would be so appreciated.