Danialla, sorry for your skunking; my cat did that (rolled in where a skunk had been) when I was sick/just home from the hospital and I didn't realize it until he was on my lap and I was in my PJ's; I had to call my husband to come home from work and take the cat to the vets to get a bath, I was too weak to do much (including laundry so I was in short supply of clean things to put on if the cat got me smelly :-) and the cat really wanted to sit on my lap, etc. LOL

nowheretorun, I would make a "list" of minimum chores that would help your Mom some (bringing meals, doing laundry/cleaning once a week, that sort of thing) including some "fun" ones (books from/to the library? that sort of thing) and see if you can't talk to your sibs one at a time and get them to "sign up for" a chore or two every now and then? It could be that your mother's situtation looks so scary and difficult that no one knows where to start and that they're not as "brave" as you are. Too, they have their own relationship with her and might have wholly different points of view; that happened with my brother who is 9 years older than I am -- he was the "black sheep" about helping take care of my stepmother but after she died, he came out of his shell and is again my wonderful older brother and he and I have a great relationship. Some of his "attitude" was forced upon him by how my stepmother and stepsister and everyone saw him and he was truly in an awkward position, I could see, once it was "over."

But even if no one else helps, getting yourself a few things you can do to make you feel "better" might help you. There is always more we could do but doing "something" in an organized/organized fashion might make you feel better for yourself?