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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
Loco, I just wanted to say you did nothing wrong and if you feel you can't tell your t about it, I would trust your intuition perhaps you know or feel your t would not be happy about this and that's ok because those are her boundaries.
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It sounds like Loco's concern is that revealing this might jeopardize the whole relationship, and then the attachment bond is broken forever. Frighten the T and you might get "referred out" aka abandoned.
What I don't see acknowledged in this scenario is who holds all the power. The T sets the boundaries and rules, has much more power to define what is "normal" or acceptable, and can sever the relationship in a unilateral way thus abruptly turning off the supply of the elixir to which the client has become habituated. This power differential has a profound impact on what sorts of things the client can risk revealing.