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Old Jul 21, 2016, 02:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Echos Myron View Post
I agree that you don't always know when you have crossed someone's boundaries or how a person will respond, which can be quite scary in a T relationship.
The best description of therapeutic boundaries I have ever heard was on this site (I can't remember who said it):
Therapeutic boundaries are like an invisible electric fence; you don't know where they are but when you step on them it hurts like hell.
I'm sorry you - and others - have had such a highly fraught experience. While my first therapist was somewhat inconsistent and could be hurtful too, my later one was fairly laid back and never acted in an aggressive, harsh or punishing manner. I'm beginning to see how fortunate I was...