That is great your T does the phone thing with you, sister. It sounds like a really useful adjunct to your therapy. So you ask him to hold onto the painful stuff for you, but he doesn't bring it up in session. He just is aware of it and waits for you to bring it up or not? But yet he knows. So that is good. Nice system you guys have developed!

I have really only had significant conversations at one time with my T, 2-3 over the course of 2 days, when I was falling apart and needed him. I had reached out to my lawyer, and she contacted T and told him to contact me. (Somehow, I was unable to reach out to T on my own.) But he was there and I was not doing well. So our phone conversations were him trying to provide support and really being assertive about "going after me", because I was just kind of silent and not coping well on the phone. It was really quite charming, in retrospect, as he is not usually so assertive, in person, about going in and "rescuing" me. All in all, a good experience, although not one I expect to be repeated regularly. I am really not good over the phone (can't connect) and am sure would never be able to do regular phone therapy. His voice sounded kind of different over the phone and I remember not liking that. Was it really him calling me?