Struggled today with feelings of obsessing over my adult children. Stuck with my plan not to interject myself into their life. Did a tiny bit of fb stalking of them, but my actions didn't appear crazy to anyone, and I admitted what I had done and was thinking to my husband. Considering unfriending this son as well, just to protect them from my imposing myself into their business, but I think he would feel hurt, and considered telling him the reasons I am so crazy lately, but again - back to, they never ask - they don't need me, they need to be left to live their life. So, I have no choice but to stick to what I said I was going to do, and what my husband says is probably best - Remember they don't need anything from me, and they know how to contact me if they do. :/ It is very hard to be a BPD and let go of adult children without trying to continue hovering and mothering.