Hey! I know how you feel, I use to be that way with a long ago girlfriend. I was obsessive and suspicious of everything she did for more then 4 years and then we seperated. I never looked at it as being a problem but it obviously isnt normal. There are so many medications out on the market now, and it may take a long time to find one that helps. But im sure something out will help calm your OCD about your husband. Some stuff will even make you "too" carefree. I would suggest changing doctors, starting fresh and just go down the list of medications until something helps. Just know your not alone, but yes it will destroy your relationship if you cant stop it. I wish you the best of luck, never give up, and make sure you explain to your husband the reason you act the way you do. "In sickness and in health"