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Originally Posted by lolagrace
Gotta learn to bite that tongue . . . HARD . . . Step away and count to 100 or something. Breathe deeply. Don't respond until you've taken time to give it thought and know your response will be assertive, not aggressive. May take a lot of practice, but it is about retraining yourself to be thoughtfully responsive instead of impulsively reactive.
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I actually did this today. I was reading another thread reply directed my way and while I'm sure the poster meant no ill will, I felt threatened all the same. So I got up and away from my laptop for about 15 minutes doing something else, and came back feeling much calmer and the whole defensive cycle didn't even start. I feel proud of myself for I made a tentative baby step in the right direction.