First off it's not a better way of dealing with it because what you are doing by commenting as such is not dealing with anything it's attacking and if your analysis is right, it's attacking an undeserving victim.

So the next question I have is when you say "dealing with this.." what is it you're dealing with? have you asked that question of yourself? if not, you should. What is it that is the core of the problem?

I can give you my take on this. It's all about perception. This is not at all about only controlling your tongue as someone else said because at the root there is so much more. The cause of this is internal thinking and perception of yourself and how you feel others view you or what they expect of you. What do you see others' perceptions of you ? Because if you interpret many things as attacks on you most likely you have a skewed view of how people are talking to you and what they think of you. You expect the worst out of other people, thinking they are mean or think little of you so it warps your interpretation of what thy have said. Exaggerates the negative criticism to toxic levels where you now think it was an attack not merely a criticism.

I think controlling your tongue is a bandaid but for lasting change you have to analyze and change the way you view others.