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Originally Posted by unaluna
I agree with sandman. I also think you were probably raised like this? I know i was. Given more insults than compliments. Raised in an attack environment rather than a loving one. The apple doesnt fall far from the tree. Its taken many years of my t's gentle and kind attitude towards me to soften my tongue. Also practicing as much as possible being "supportive" on pc, not always successfully, i'll admit.
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Also I've learned that it's not only about my perceptions of what other people think, it's a lot to do with my perceptions of myself. Because as I get older I've learned that there will always be hard critics of everything I am, and everything I do, but in the end what matters is what I THINK OF ME. if I'm doing or saying what I believe to be right and true, I accept that not all will agree or be on my side and some will even violently oppose me. accepting this has made me able to better control my reactions. I'm not perfect and still slip but a bit better than I was as a younger man.