I'm new here and read some (not all) the posts in this thread. I just want to voice my general opinion, not directed at or targetting any specific people or groups, that in my experience it is NOT just about individual people that have hurt someone (like the person with the "accountant" analogy suggested). In my experience there are TOXIC belief systems and enculturated environments bred from them which (a) actively work and self-propagate through books, literature, meetings, discussions, media, etc. and cause harm WITHOUT the direct presence of any individual representing them required; and (b) which, through being embraced by groups of people, become an active force in this world to abuse and harm others, even in some cases encourage it (though that's always presumably "for one's own good" [in religion] or "for the common good" [in politics]).

I can understand the reason for the 'gag rule' on this site -- we are all different and have had different experiences, and in some cases one man's feast is another man's poison, so to speak. The gag rule keeps us from negatively triggering each other and/or not being able to integrate as a helpful/supportive community when any individual, because of their affiliations, becomes a "representation" of that toxic/abusive system to another individual. However, I disagree with the proposition that there is no systemic/environmental issue here and it's just a matter of individual people who have caused the harm. In my experience there are harmful systems out there, and they are active today.

Just my 2 cents. Thanks for listening.
~Mal