This is a lot like the difference between the first T I had, and the second. The pathologising really didn't help me.

Perhaps it's just a different approach but I sometimes feel that some people like to tell others there is something seriously wrong with them. It just makes some people feel better about themselves, more knowledgable, more intact, perceptive and healthier themselves. I get the feeling if they are not talking directly to patients they are probably psychopathologizing anyone and everyone behind their backs.

So basically, I think that secure people, and secure professionals, are less likely to do this.

Interestingly my first T also liked to personalise everything. I was always meant to say 'I' and 'people in general' or 'others' were not allowed to be part of the discussion. I think this CAN be helpful IF a person is trying to avoid their own stuff, but I don't think its always helpful. Second T would OFTEN respond to me with a generalisation. For instance, I went to a social event that I found difficult:

Me: so I sat there trying to get into a different mental state so that I didn't feel upset. And it was just like I was 12 years old again, trying the same things -

T2: When people are stressed they do return to earlier coping methods.