He never stood up for me. It would have meant so much to me if he did, my father never protected me and died when I was 12. I so much wanted a man to make me feel protected. Things happened where any other husband would have defended his wife, and mine didn't. Even when I asked him to, he just couldn't bring himself to be assertive on my behalf.

The last incident was when our neighbor and friend bolted across the street . There was a scuffle, I got him out of my house. A month later I told my h, begging him not to make a scene. He didn't. He did shy away from social situations with the guy. Recently we all went out again and acted like nothing happened.