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Originally Posted by lolagrace
Sounds like you can see the reasoning for both views. Perhaps think of it more as them balancing each other out. It doesn't have to be either/or, black/white. It can very well be that gray area in between (which you seem to already realize) that you can have needs for reassurance AND also work on finding ways to reach some of that reassurance on your own.
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Thanks for your response. Agreed that it doesn't have to be either/or. MC does also try to make sure I'm not just using reassurance as a "crutch"--like I'm not talking to him instead of talking to my husband (talking to both is OK). As he said the other day, using parenting as an example, at some point, you have to take the training wheels off.