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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I wouldn't like your therapist's approach at all. Mine is more like your MC. She does not label or pathologize or talk in terms of fixing. If I ask for reassurances, I don't even think it's framed as asking for reassurance. Then again, I don't tend to ask for things that would make me feel better. I did ask her to say Yes indeed, once. And she did. I don't see any value at all in questioning why someone needs something that feels supportive or is helpful.
Are you finding any benefits to seeing this therapist? It could it be that no one compares to your MC, so if you have seen some good things from your therapist, maybe just focus on that area (or areas) to work with her on.
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Thanks for your response. Part of what's frustrating to me is that most of my e-mails to her are not sent for the purpose of reassurance--often I'm just telling her an insight I had while driving home, letting her know what happened in an MC appointment, etc. (If I want straight-up reassurance, I'm more likely to reach out to MC.) Yes, there was something a month or two ago where I was a bit upset she didn't respond because I was really stressing out about something, but that e-mail was different from the usual ones. And there was a period maybe 6 months ago where I was going through a crisis and texted and called her a few times, but she's said that it made sense for me to reach out a lot to her and MC then, so I know she's not talking about that.
When I first started seeing this T 4.5 years ago, it was mostly for anxiety/panic disorder, and while that's still a problem, our therapy evolved into addressing a lot of other stuff, both in the past and the present. I feel like maybe she was helping more when we were addressing a specific thing? So maybe I should consider talking to her about just focusing on a certain area.