My T is humanistic and believes that everyone has needs and that they are OK, normal, important, helpful etc etc and she tries to meet me with these needs. Actually, it is a far less dirty word than it ever used to be and that is s big step in itself. If she was like your T then I would probably still have a fear of the word. I like the suggestions that maybe no one will compare to your MC and also that maybe they can both be good for you in their own way. It does sound tough though and I am glad you have your MC to support you in this Lonesome. Hugs to you while you work through this with your T.