I do not find their attempts at normalizing useful at all. To me I don't look to them to decide what is normal or not and my problem is not one of being concerned about me being normal. If I finally tell the woman something and she responds that it is normal - I just feel dismissed and like an idiot for bothering to tell her anything at all and letting her talk. I usually feel mostly like an idiot for allowing her to talk when I know she is awful at it.