So, I have searched for my first love periodically. I have always wondered how she is and how her life has turned out. I have also worried she would think I am a sellout because I married a man and had kids (I identified as a lesbian at the time).

Well, I'm pretty sure I have found her and that she is transgended and identifies as a man. I have contacted the only mutual facebook friend we have and asked if they are both the same person. I haven't heard back, I just sent my friend a message today.

Anyway, we had a deep and passionate relationship and were very in love. If this is the same person, would you contact them? Would it stir too much? I am nervous about it because she was my love and because my husband and I are on the rocks.