I can completely relate. My ex-T. used to point out that I need reassurance. Sometimes even saying "there's that need for reassurance again". But, as my current T. pointed out, the entire point of coming to therapy is to get a reality check - "is this normal or not". We talk to friends and family for reassurance. I agree it's a basic need.

My ex-T. seemed to be almost militant saying I shouldn't seek reassurance/sympathy/validation from others - I should give it all to myself. Well, good luck finding a person who is good at that. we are all human and need each other to survive.

Ex-T. made me feel horrible for wanting the reassurance. She would point out I want it, say she's not that type and then say "when am I not reassuring". I get that one doesn't want to rely on others for every little reality check but when you are digging deep and feeling ways you have never felt before, reassurance/validation is the only way to make it through.