Ok, it is very rare for a adults ridicule people openly to their face, it is more of something that takes place in gossip between friends. Whether she is the type who would do that, I don't know. She seems pretty nice, but you never know.

However, I will admit the main issue isn't a fear of her ridiculing me, it is more that I have an internalized sense of shame about approaching girls. I feel like from a young age, I have been socialized to believe that undesirable men who approach women are pathetic and creepy. This has probably been mainly through the media and through social interactions. Couple this with my natural social anxiety and slow processing speed and you get someone who finds it almost impossible to approach girls.

Of course, I don't necessarily think of myself as undesirable, I just think I might be if I don't say all the right things or if I happen to not be looking my best on the particular day. Basically it just puts a lot of extra pressure on.