I was looking at PsychologyToday and saw the photo and write-up by my first T. The last update was a letter I wrote around 1990. The understanding was that I could write but she wouldn't write back.

I saw her for about 3 1/2 years. She helped me understand why I attached myself to unattainable people, and she was the one who started my "addiction" to therapy. I fought the connection to her, but eventually we became close. She was only 29 and inexperienced, but she got regular help from her supervisor.

I quit suddenly and I'm still not sure why. I was nowhere ready to quit but I thought the fit wasn't good anymore. I cried for days afterwards, until I found another T.

After a few years my next T moved and I went back to my first one for closure. Unfortunately, that's when I discovered I could watch her from my doctor's office across the street. She ended up sending me certified letter telling me needed to get back into therapy with someone else right away, which I did.

Every so often I wrote to my first T in an attempt to sort out what happened. There was more positive than negative in that therapy. She was psychodynamic and used object relations theory.

So, last year I asked my current T what she thought of writing to my first T on the PsychologyToday form. She said it was up to me. I don't think it can cause me any harm. It would be nice if she emails me, but even if she doesn't, I want to tell her about my family. I was in my 30s then, and now I'm a grandmother. She knew both of my kids, and my husband too.

I'm not asking for advice on whether or not to write, but wonder if anyone ever contacted a T from years ago and if she/he responded.