I don't particularly want to feel superior to anyone but assertiveness is low on my priority list. I grew up in a family of very assertive men and subsequently married one and had relationships only with very assertive men. It proved to be very stressful for me.

I am now married to a much less assertive, mild mannered man and it's much better for me as I am finally very content and don't have to worry about him blowing up at every perceived injustice

But saying that, most certainly going out and having good times with TRIGGER rapist isn't something my husband would even consider. I would expect any decent man to protect his wife but one does not need to be assertive to do so. It's just kind of common sense IMHO

I am sorry for your pain tisha

The story with the neighbors is a loo loo that I have been afraid to get into here, but it's significant. His actions that day even triggered something worse -- a reconnection with a former bf who just happened to call just after I threw the neighbor out and started drinking shots before noon to calm my nerves.

Nothing happened physically with either of them. It ended as badly once again with the former bf as it did the first time.

Anyway, I am traumatized now. I am scared of myself, too.


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