Hmm, can relate to that selfishness about having time out, too. Time with T was always a contentious issue.
So, if it isn't working the way it is, is there another way? Kinda tongue in cheek here, but not entirely. What about a peace treaty? An alliance of sorts... "you can have this time if I can have this time", or "you can do this if you promise not to do this" kinda thing. Though I get the sense that there are too many who are not in agreement about how things should be for this to be an easy fix.
But compromise and harmonious, functioning co-existence has to start somewhere, right?