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Originally Posted by Seraphine
As you should be! I think it's important when we hurt ppl, even accidentally, to not only apologize, but to explain why you said or did them. At the very least it should bring respect back, and help open dialogue for working it out, becoming friends again, or even just closure. Keep double checking when you are about to do something that may make things worse, it's not easy but it's how you'll break from those behaviors even a bit. Certainly better than not working to control them. *hugs*
And fwiw, break ups are hard. They hurt everyone. Have compassion both for her and yourself.
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Right. I apologized a lot I guess even when she wasn't ready to hear it. I'm a little angry too and hoping that she comes back eventually and apologizes. I just suppose it's something I can't make her do. So I have to respect her space and just believe that she is the forgiving person both me and our mutual friend think she is. It's so hard...especially physically. I've got a lump in my throat, headache, and chest pain constantly. My mutual friend and I have agreed to leave her alone completely for two weeks before either she or I tries to reach out again. After that, she may have to realize what she's lost. I'll keep you all updated though.
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Originally Posted by Lil Rocky
I'm glad you were able to stop yourself from sending her a text. I can imagine how hard it is but you did really well.
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I'm proud of myself too. I have got my regular phone back now. I'd given it to my mom for safe keeping before I could control my urges. The week without it and some nasty responses through a mutual friend really helped me realize I need to respect her space. I guess it's helping her but hurting me. My mom and other friends say I might eventually just get fed up by the time she comes around. We'll see.