It's tough, can you get help from hud, Social services or liheap (heating help)? I live off SSI and raise a child too. Would you feel better if he volunteered? The $ is just not enough. Can any of his hobbies bring in $? How old are your kids? Is he in therapy and going to dr.s? Is he well enough to do vocational rehab? Does he want to go to work? Remember most likely he's trying his best.