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Originally Posted by pegasus Burnt_Out, you've been given lots of helpful suggestions here from some very good and experienced members.

Who said I wasn't applying any of them? I'm not doing online dating right now as I'm at a transition point with relocating and all, but I'll surely put them to good use in the future. I said Artchic's suggestion was brilliant... I also said I'd take Divine's advice of eHarmony once I'm settled in some new environs. No point in delving into that here when I'm going to move anyway. And don't be so bent because I'm a tough nut to crack. I went through three therapists that didn't get the situation either... and they're supposedly paid professionals on the human mind. I think things might have been clearer if they ghosted my actual day-to-day life, but that's not how it works. Thirty minutes is all you get. Well, it doesn't play out like people think it does. Life isn't a TV sitcom.

I feel like this getting to be more about people feeling good about feeling like they can offer up help, more than me actually receiving any help that fits into my (somehow) complex situation. I'm sorry I'm not at textbook fix. Honestly, if that's kills you, feel free to abandon ship and let the thread die. No one is being guilted into having the answers here. If I'm on the Ultimate Metal forums and someone asks me who produced the first Parkway Drive record and I don't know... I just don't hit the reply button. Simple as that. I'm not gonna be mad. I've got a post over there inquiring about what cities have a good music scene with ZERO replies. None. It happens. I'm not mad about it. I'll find the answers elsewhere (Vice posted an article on it a few weeks later, actually).

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I would like to suggest that you do not try so hard in your profile, be the real you rather than making yourself look like a superman type. I hope you will take my suggestion at face value rather than (more-or-less) saying, 'Yeah but...'

I'm 100% open to profile-by-committee if you've got a clearer perspective here. You all know enough about me at this point: Sweet cosmos, if you're really experts, then script away. If it works, I'll send $1000 to each of you. I am not joking. Not in the least. The money is in the bank. I'm a scientific sort and more than willing to test any hypothesis.

I've tried a number of things (including a non-"Superman" profile... which I don't think what I posted here really is all that superlative) and nothing works. I know I'm "yeah, butting" but after six+ years, I've got a lot of yeah butting built up. Sorry if that's the situation. Sorry for trying different things. It comes with being a trial-and-error sort of person. Like I said: You got the skills? Write it for me. I'll put the check in the mail.

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You've also said that you have had several girlfriends in the past, I would suggest you look at where these went wrong rather than writing 'thousands' of messages to women on these dating sites. Maybe you should try another technique and learn from previous experiences.

Who says I haven't learned from those experiences? My last girlfriend was too young for where I was in life. I was trying to keep an open mind when she contacted me, but being too far off in our respective careers it made it impossible to spend time together outside of work. Long ago, I dated a girl who wanted kids younger than most, and my uncertainty about it at the time drove her away. I've got a better perspective on all that now... and am flexible on at that. I HAVE learned a lot. Give me credit where credit is due... or at least ask before trashing on me with a drive-by post just because you're sick of my depression trigger getting bumped to the top of the stack or if you don't really want to get to know/engage me at length.

Like I said, if you hate my qualms and frustrations in life, just don't post. It's just text... just bits, and not clamoring up any servers airing my woes. One pic upload and I've done 100x the damage.