Hello amandalouise: Thank you for sharing this.

From what you wrote, your daughter would be considered to be: "intersexed". I have watched some interesting documentary videos on YouTube with regard to this condition. It can be most distressing for affected individuals. The approach you are taking with your daughter is most wise.
Unfortunately, it seems the Transgender Forum is pretty quiet these days. This is my second time here on PC. When I was a member here on PC before, I posted quite a bit in the Transgender Forum. However I no longer do.
I'm also kind-of a "tangentially-qualified" person, here in the Transgender Forum, I guess you might say. I'm biologically male. But all of my life, I have felt as though I was born the wrong gender.

I never did anything about it though. Way back when I was young, the words "transsexual" & "transgender" hadn't even been coined yet. So, anyway, I don't know if, technically, I'm "qualified" to be here either.

However, I still stop by whenever there is a new Thread to reply to. I wish both you & your daughter well...