My T suggested that I read this book. I've found it a very unsettling and upsetting read - I went into therapy broadly thinking that my father was the 'bad' parent and my mother was the 'good' parent but as time has gone on we've talked more and more about her. The book suggests that she was getting her own unresolved childhood needs met through me, and my depression has developed as a result. I feel sick that the parent I idolised could actually have been harming me and I've never even realised it. I don't know how to come to terms with having two abusive parents not one. I just want to push the book away, which I guess means I should do the opposite.

Has anyone read it and had similar feelings?