Thank you for your perspective. You are right, depression does not define who you are. However, there is more to depression than what you have described and I think your phrasing can be somewhat damaging to an already sensitive population. To many, depression is so much more than a refusal/inability to adapt to change or refusal/inability to change the way one thinks. It's a chemical imbalance in the brain. It's biological. It's genetic. It's physiological. The mind did this, not the person. And, forgive me if I'm wrong, but I find the first part of your post to be somewhat accusatory. To imply that it falls on the person suggests blame. So many of us already fault ourselves for being in this darkness. Perhaps, just the ideas of what to do to get us out would have sufficed, rather than your interpretation of what you think depression essentially is.