having a child in order to feel you fit in or to have a built in person to love isn't such a great idea. Better to have a child when you can count on things like relationships, income, and health to be stable.

Still I know it hurts and all the reminders bombarding you don't help. Start with the companionship of a pet - a dog in particular (they take a great deal more responsibility than a cat but also give back a flood of affection in return).