Welcome to the forums, amandalouise. It's wonderful that you have come to a new place in order to help your child, and I hope you can find plenty of useful information. While the gender forum has been less active than members like Skeezkys remember, there are still at least a few people here who might be able to answer some of your questions.

A quick look at the title of this forum tells us that there are transgender people and other gender people. One way to explain this is that there are boys and girls and then there are people who are both or neither. There are a multitude of words to describe people in the "other" area such as bigender, nonbinary, genderqueer, and genderfluid, and probably equally as many of these people call themselves transgender as the ones that don't call themselves anything.

You daughter is somewhat different from the majority of people, boy, girl, or not, in that she is intersex. A lot of people say intersex people are cisgender which means they identify with the gender they were assigned at birth despite the fact that they have different sex characteristics. I'll describe a few different situations to try and explain.

1: Say someone is born with a vagina, ovaries, XX chromosomes, and no signs of being intersex, and the doctor says "It's a girl!" If that girl grows up and never disagrees with the doctor, she is cisgender.

2: Someone is born with what resembles a vagina and a penis, ovaries and/or testes, and any combination of chromosomes and the doctor says "It's a girl!" If that girl grows up and never disagrees with the doctor, regardless of whether she had XY chromosomes or ended up surgically removing her female reproductive organs, she technically also qualifies as cisgender.

3: Someone is born with the same sex characteristics as person 2 and the doctor says "It's a boy!" This person disagrees with the doctor regardless of bodily appearance, hormones, etc, and feels that they are a girl. This girl can qualify as either transgender or cisgender because her body fits neither the common image of "female" nor the common image of "male."

Now, that's not an extensive list, and when it comes down to it it's up to the person alone to decide whether to call themselves transgender or cisgender or something else. There are a lot of things you and your daughter will have to consider if you really want to find out what to call her situation.

Your daughter might be as girly as they come. If not, maybe she is a tomboy. She could, however, be a trans boy. It's also possible that she is a boy sometimes and a girl other times, or perhaps she doesn't fit any label known to man. Whatever she feels and whatever she decides to call herself, it's important that she knows she is not alone. She has you, the people here, doctors, and tons of intersex and transgender people on different websites who she might be able to contact.

Good luck, amandalouise!