I'm not the most social person but I will say this, my not being a part of social groups is on me.

You're welcome to give up and opt out but just keep in mind that you cannot change how social groups are, you can only change you. Thing is what I see most of all is that with social groups, people that fit in aren't entirely being themselves either. There is a certain amount of molding one has to do to fit into groups. I dont' care how you look at it no matter what social groups are merely groups of unique individuals. there is no perfect group where everyone fits in, where all their interests are common or anything. We make a choice to pick and choose what we go along with and what we stand firm in.

I speak from experience and as I said I'm not social either but it's not the fault of anyone but myself. I have to choose to be social and when I do this it means making myself fit in. I will never be exactly like the others or find any group of people that accept everything that I am, and I have to ACCEPT that the group isn't perfect either.

What I am saying is, it's not impossible to find a group to fit in with. But it's not something that happens, it's something we make happen.