I have been taking care of my mother who is in the later stages of dementia. My daughter has been helping me with this. Recently she fell and hit her head on the wall. I took her to the ER room where a CT scan showed no evidence of physical trauma, but she displayed the all of the symptoms of a concussion. Her symptoms of dementia worsened very much so. She babbles incoherently like she is delidious. She hallucinates now. This is too much for me. I am her sole caretaker with some help from my daughter. I feed her, wash her, change her diapers, take her to the doctor, manage her money, and sometimes I manage to drive her around in order to get her out of the house. It is very difficult to get away to do errands.

I have many worries. I have to take care of my mother with the frightening prospect of her not knowing who I am. My daughters a teenager with that type of craziness. I basically raise her alone. I am worried about money, where if anything of significance were to happen, I will lose my home. I have spent it all. I have a significant amount of debt. I am concerned about my daughter and her schooling, for she has not been getting good grades. Once my mother passes, I will need to get a job. Can I hold down a job? What kind of job can I find at an age already near retirement? Will I ever be able to retire? Will I have a roof over my head in my seventies? I am kind of scared right now. I feel alone.

What is in store for me? Bankruptcy? Breakdown? Time in the hospital? Lose my home? Lose my mother to the State? I cannot afford either one of these to happen.

I wish to all of you the best fortune, that of being well.

Tucson

PS I am tired of seeing my mother naked. Argh! It is too much for a son to see. LOL