Grrrr! I hate it when I'm upset by something and my partner takes the other person's side. I mean, I do think its worth looking at the situation objectively and all, but surely there is a way to do it that doesn't lead to FURTHER upset and dismay. However, its possible I'm sometimes guilty of the same thing - wanting to assess a situation 'realistically' and being insensitive to the person telling me about it. Even unconsciously taking the other person's side to avoid playing into what I sense the person 'wants' from me.

HOWEVER, I definitely think a therapist SHOULD be able to both give emotional validation and the necessary understanding AND be able to address the objective aspect of the situation. A therapist doesn't have to say you were in the right, but if she can't make you feel understood, and express empathy, then it seems like she can't do her job. And the fact that she look proud of it would just make me want to kick her in the shins. Yes, it's called being withholding... Well done b&*ch