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Old Jul 26, 2016, 05:37 PM
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Originally Posted by feralkittymom View Post
To me she feels a bit uncomfortable in herself and a bit out of her depth doing psycho-dynamic therapy. You mentioned that she was really good with the anxiety disorder stuff in the first couple of years. But she seems to run a bit hot and cold in the relationship department. Maybe her strengths simply lie in more directive therapy modalities.

But she also seems very much embedded in a clinical psych orientation: viewing emotions expressed through behaviors as "normal" or "not normal" through the lens of "illness." It can go hand in hand with a belief that by changing the behaviors, the emotions will follow.

I prefer an orientation more embedded in a counseling psych orientation which views emotions and behaviors as reflective of developmental issues; and that any resulting illness--like depression, etc--derives from developmental gaps (which can also include a biological component.). So whatever led to the gap--unmet needs, etc--is normalized and remedied rather than pathologized.

This isn't to say that all Ts with a clinical psych or counseling psych background conduct therapy in only particular ways, but they are philosophical orientations that infuse their practices.
Interesting...The "counseling psych" definition sounds more like my marriage counselor, since he tends to relate things back to my childhood, talking about schemas and things like that. T has said before that one of MC's things is object relations theory, which, from what I've read, also ties things back to childhood and relationships with caregivers. Which I feel like is addressing the cause rather than the symptoms, which to me would ultimately be more healing. And, yeah, the normalizing and remedying vs. pathologizing thing. He's a Ph.D. though, so probably more trained in clinical, but he was saying last session how he doesn't follow the "blank slate" sort of training he received.

T is a clinical social worker, so I presume her training is a bit different. That came up a bit in session last week, and she said they would have received similar training. I just think she chooses to follow a different approach. And now that I can see those approaches side by side, I can tell which one is helping me. Like, maybe I would need to be temporarily more needy again to process all the childhood stuff, but ultimately, it would help me be independent. I see it sort of as MC fixing the faulty wiring I got in childhood, like he's replacing those more negative messages with more positive ones (while still focusing on current stuff in our marriage and things). While I guess T is trying to focus more on now and how I can handle things cognitively and behaviorally? She's mixed modality rather than CBT though.

Anyway, thanks for giving me your perspective--it's helped me think!
Thanks for this!
feralkittymom