glad you are posting here, raspberrytorte - I'm so sorry you are going through this!
I get very nervous around people who drink; it is unnerving to be around the unpredictability. I hope you have a safe night, and will post again to say how you are doing.

p.s. they can't be that religious if they are getting drunk to gospel - talk about dissonance! "I'd like a buttery wine that pairs well with Ferlin Husky's "Wings of a Dove"...."