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Originally Posted by not.dead.yet
I struggle immensely with self-esteem and confidence. I believe it goes back to my childhood and youth which weren't happy years.. I've always felt less than nothing because my dad didn't want me. But I was just reading about how others' judgement of us is a reflection of them, and realised my dad just wanting to get away from me was/is a reflection of his fear or resentment of being needy - probably because he was never seen nor accepted with his needs growing up. It really didn't (doesn't) mean I'm worthless, and I am allowed to have needs even though he resented and looked down his nose at them!
Just wanted to share if maybe this could help others see someone's judgement of them in a different light  All the very best to you today, and hugs! 
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Thank you for this, truly. I'm having a hard time right now and I am being judged harshly by someone that I can't get away from for several days. Your post helps a lot and it's spot-on. I'm going to re-read it a lot over the next few days.
So much of it is really perspective sometimes (for me) - I can get through hard times with a strong mindset. Your post made me think about my situation and I thought, "It's hard right now, but I've got this. Their issues belong to THEM, not me."