I’m 42 this year and I have been suffering viginumus for all my life and I never manage to have an intercourse due to pain. My husband has not abandon me but at the same time he is not supportive. He always said that this my problem and I need to sort it out myself. I have tried very hard to overcome this but it was not easy. Every few months he will had a go at me and I will push myself to try harder but I was not getting the right result. Until in the last year, I have managed to see a therapist plus using the recommended kit and I managed to insert all the dilators including the largest size. However, until now I have not try to have an intercourse with my husband because he told me that he is not interested in me anymore.

He said over the years he had try to use other ways to satisfy his sex desire. He has been watching porn, flirting with other woman etc. My heart was so hurt when I found out these. He has become completely disconnect and we have no intimacy. Sometimes his temple is bad and will be angry at me even I said nothing wrong. He kept saying it was my fault that our happy marriage was going this way. He said that I should have tried harder many years ago and he is now completely disappointed with me. I felt bad because he has been waited for me for so many years and I really hope that one day he will change his mind.

We have moved to a new country about 16 months ago and he has changed completely. He doesn’t care about me anymore and have been staying late and not come home. Sometimes he will leave home for few days and ignore my call or text. He said he needs space and just want me to leave him alone. He also openly told me that he wants a new life and want to have normal sex life. I told him that we should try getting some professional help but he refused.

I don’t know what I can do to resolve my current situation., I felt like he is not interested in continuing our marriage, he is staying because of responsibility. I still love him and will wait for him accept me again. It is getting worse everyday and I don’t know if I can handle the rejection and emotional torture any longer.

Can anyone please give me some advice? I don’t have anyone who is suffering this condition to share my feelings with. One of my close friend advised me to just leave my husband and start a new life again.