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Originally Posted by Chummy2
I agree with what ThisWayOut said.
I have no contact at all during weekends and breaks (short and long). Usually the longest vacations of T's are not longer than 3 weeks.
But I can understand why 12 weeks with no contact can seem cruel. My other T is now on leave/vacation. She has been away for more than 4 months and wil be away for another month. I have no contact at all during that time. And I can't understand how she can just do that so easily. She has been my T for years. I'm probably the client she has been seeing the longest. During the last year I became very attached to her. I'm struggling with this. And how can she just go 5 months without wondering how I am? I know it's her time off, but still. Even one check-up email is too much? Makes me wonder if she actually give a damn about me. And that I probably should just stay with current/replacement T.
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Wow, that's a really long break! The time my private-practice t took a 3 month break, she set up a blog of her adventures specifically for her clients. We couldn't contact her, but she posted pics and blurbs of highlights from her travels. She was only my group t at the time, so I still had my individual therapist, but it helped stay connected. She's currently away for a month with no blog or contact...
Maybe your t isn't necessarily "easily" breaking contact, but is caught-up in whatever she's doing during the break? If it's a leave-of-absence for personal or medical reasons, that may be what t is focusing on.
To the op, I didn't mean my first response to come off as flippant. I know it's still hard getting through the break. The one thing that helped me after the fact with the school break was that t said she was glad to see me again and had thought of me during the summer... it's reasonable to think that you likely cross t's mind at least once in a while, and t likely wonders what you are up to and how you are doing. Heck, I contacted that t I saw during school about 15 years after we ended and found out not only did she remember me, but she thought of me on occasion through the years...