I'm sorry this is a struggle you are facing right now... switching t's can be difficult even if you are in control of the terms...

Personally, i've found closure sessions helpful, when they are actually closure sessions (I've had some that were handled poorly on either or both ends). It still sucked to switch, but a good closure session can help, but then again, I'm also a person who needs that closure.

Is therapy 3x's a week necessary for you (not what t says, but what you find helpful and supportive)? If you feel you can do without it, and you like this new t,then it may be worth trying. Another question though, did you tell t you were going to take her up on the referral because you felt rejected, or because you really believe that there's no real hope with that t. it sounded like she was trying (poorly) to get you to think about what you want/need from therapy. Am I correct in reading that she gave you the choice to continue therapy with her, or take the referral?