H3rmit,
I'm so sorry to read about your situation. I'm feeling the same way, though I'm in the beginning (1 week today) of separation. Your husband sounds a lot like mine - wants what he wants and no compromise possible.

I wish I knew magic words to make everything alright for all of us suffering. I find the prospect of 'starting over' alone at this age (62) devastating and useless. I keep asking myself 'What's the point?' Life feels totally empty.

Maybe the counseling will help clarify things for you and provide some coping skills. When you get back to the other apartment, could you find another counselor there?

Just know I'm thinking of you and sending warm thoughts.