My wife of 20 years told me awhile ago that she doe not think that she is in love with me any more. She is going through a serious crisis I can tell, she is not herself and repeatedly comments on how unhappy she is. It seems that she is blaming the unhappiness on me and my MH issues over the last several years.

We have been going to marriage counseling for the last few months but it does not seem to be helping her, she still questions if she loves me. I unfortunately still love her dearly and dont want to break up our family. I cannot live in limbo like this though, it is taking its toll on me. I told her yesterday that if she does not start seeing a therapist then I am going to leave. I cant tolerate the way that she has been treating me. I hate to do this, but if she does not get help then I see no future.

So I have not slept in two days, and I am afraid that I am going to go off of the rails. I have taken my meds as prescribed but it has not had any effect on me.

How the heck did I get to this point, we were solid for so many years. She has changed this year, she had plastic surgery(out of character for her). I am afraid that she is having an affair even though she said she is not, she has mentioned in counselling several times that she just wants to hook up with a doctor who will take care of her(she is a nurse).

gahhhhhhh I am struggling.